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From New Scientist magazine: Why do people bite their nails and what is the compulsion to do this when you are worried or concerned? Nail-biting is a control pattern. The purpose of
a control pattern is to stop or reduce the effects of bad feelings. These
feelings may be difficult to control or they may be old ones which we
have grown used to controlling. If we are worried about something and
are unable to tell anyone about it, then the problem occupies our minds.
However, if we can tell someone about it (without interruption) then we
are able to view it with a more relaxed attitude and the control pattern
loses its purpose and reduces or stops
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I have been biting my nails almost continuously
since childhood. Although I am the worst of my family, my mother, brothers
and nephews are all been chronic nail biters leading me to believe in
a genetic link. The longest period of abstinence I have managed is just
5 months. The habit really gets me down and I am at a loss as to how to
rid myself of it. Amongst the more bizarre methods I have tried is to
wear those little rubber thimbles that bankers used to use for counting
currency on each of my fingers; but I bit them to shreds! I seem to have
become immune to nail bite lotions but think there is still mileage in
that strategy if only I can find a super strong and nastier tasting product.
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Try
a behavioural technique: simply place your fingernails on your teeth for
about 30 seconds. Through *paradoxical intention* the desire to chew one's
nails suddenly disappears.
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Consider
hypnotherapy. If you are asking the question on behalf of a child,
then hypnosis is an ideal therapy for them: it's fun. My observation of
school kids who bite their nails is that they are of a nervy/anxious disposition,
so I'd theorise that even relaxation therapy alone (and counselling re
their underlying worries) would go a long way towards curbing their destructive
habit. Some chew the skin till it bleeds. (If you want my complete answer,
I'd say the habit probably has a lot to do with the child's home environment,
too.)
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I also
tried the horrid tasting solutions without success (you just end up biting
more carefully don't you?). You don't say what kind of false nails
you tried though. I tried the 'glue-on' nail tips, which just made
the 'chewing' a bit more challenging. However, I then tried some
acrylic extensions, and they were so rigid that as soon as I attempted
to bite, the sensation was so different I was immediately prompted not
continue. Three weeks later the extensions were off and I've never
bitten since - over ten years ago. I've enjoyed long natural and
sometime synthetic nails ever since.
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I empathize with the nail biting problem. I was a nail biter through childhood, and ever since my teens (I'm in the range of mid twenties now) I have been on a kind of binging/purging cycle where I grow out absolutely beautiful nails, and they get past my fingertips, and I trim them neatly and maintain them for a while....then in a flash of stress I bite them to the quick. And keep them bitten down while resolving to grow them back out...after forever it seems, they grow back and the cycle begins again. It really is a stress/worry factor for me- i simply do not get the urge to bite my nails, and I don't even realize I'm, biting them until it's too late. It's not conscious because if it was, I could control it.
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I am
21 and still bite my nails. I bite them until they are very sore and even
then I have to force myself to stop or I will continue until they are
even worse. I have been doing this since I was a child. No one ever tried
to get me to stop, nor did they seem to care that I did it. I don't feel
anxious or anything. I'm not sure why I do it or why I can't stop. I have
tried many many times but in the end I start biting my nails again. Any
suggestions?
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I think
nail biting is hereditary... I am a nail biter, as well as my two daughters
(ages 18 and 10). I don't know why we do it, we just can't STOP!!!
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I can't believe that there is actually information on this! I am in my
40's and I finally have nails (with the exception of one that I picked
down to the knuckle). My parents tried everything. I tried everything
as an adult. I bit them so bad that they would bleed and yes the skin,
too. Sometimes they would hurt so much that I really was in pain for most
of the day after I mowed them down. When I got my braces on I started
a new habit....picking my nails. (I couldn't bite them but tried). After
all of this time...I look back and realize that both habits were learned
behaviour. First, the nail biting from my older cousin, who lived downstairs.
(I even tried to copy the way she walked, which was from the outside of
her shoes in...hard to describe but another bad habit) and the picking
from a dancer that did it, who I took dance class with. She too
was older and I just fell into the habit. Unless, you go through this
yourself you can't imagine how terrible this habit can be. As A dancer
and in school... I was always hiding my hands. It consumed me. I now have
nails (with the exception of one that I picked) I religiously went to
a nail salon to have those sculptured ones put on. I used to pick them
off in the past, but I was determined not to this time. I also went back,
as soon as they were getting loose so that I wouldn't again pick them
all off. After about 6 months now, I decided that I would try to go it
alone without the fake nails and so far so good. Yes, this was learned
behaviour for me but I was also a child/adult that worried and still worries
a lot. To you parents out there. Good luck with your children. With all
of the information out there today...get this habit corrected early. Again
my parents did all that they could (other family members also got
into the picture) With the vast network of information out there today,
etc, etc, etc. do something about it NOW! You can't imagine how
terrible this habit is unless you have gone through it yourself.
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I've
been biting my nails ever since I was a toddler now I'm 35 and still can't
kick the habit. I have a 7 yr. old daughter that started about the same
time I did, and I keep telling her not to put her fingers in her mouth
and to stop biting her nails for many years. At first I pushed her hand
away from her mouth when she was still a toddler; I don't want her to
continue any longer because it'll become harder to quit the older you
get. Now, that I read your article I'll try some of the techniques the
columnist wrote about to see if there's a chance to kick it once and for
all.
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I am
39yrs old. I am a male. I have been biting my nails as long as I can remember.
I just cannot stop. Sometimes I let them go for about 4 or 5 weeks then
I gnaw them away to nothing. It's disgusting and embarrassing. My nails
are also very frail and thin when i let them grow for those few weeks.
I could almost rip them off with my fingers. I just cant stop. Any suggestions
for me?
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I am
a third generation nail biter. I have siblings I barely know and didn't
grow up with who bite and I have others I am around all the time who don't...
the ones that do and don't are from my parents of a his hers ours family...and
genetically it works out. I think there is a genetic predisposition. Not
because of stress management etc. We all function @ different levels of
character type. It really seems inborn... any studies to support... if
not... I think it's a good one.
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I bit my nails until age 32, when I quit cold turkey because my 3 year-old son started biting his. I don't think I gave him the idea, but I certainly wouldn't have been setting a good example if I continued. I don't know if this is considered a "shame" effect or not, but it worked for me. I haven't bitten my nails in over a year. I still play with my fingers nervously alot, and rub my nails together, but they stay out of my mouth. My son is still biting, but I know enough to understand that someday something will trigger him to want to stop. I just hope it's before he's 32!
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Try a behavioural technique:
simply place your fingernails on your teeth for about 30 seconds. Through
*paradoxical intention* the desire to chew one's nails suddenly disappears.
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I stopped biting my nails when I realised a direct
correlation between nail-biting and appalling threadworm infestation.
Hence I haven't bitten my nails since I was about 8 years old.
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